Q:Is 'submissive top' a legit term that folks use? It's how I've been identifying for some time, but I'm not sure I'm using the right terminology, since these things get a bit unclear when it comes to queer relationships. (I don't i.d. as female, but both my partner & I have vaginas.) Like, I finger my girl, I wear the strap, I eat her out, etc., but I do it all submissively. She's very in control, & tells me where, when, & how to fuck her. (Which is so hot, for the record lol)
I’ve heard the term “service top” used to mean topping someone in a specific way. Like a masseuse could be giving a massage as a service. But if you use top to mean the giver of an activity as opposed to dominant then sure. I try not to get hung up on the words because to often people get caught in real debating a universal definition instead on developing an individual one.
Also, yeah. That sounds super hot!
Thanksgiving is on it’s way, and Christmas will be here before you know it. With many people making travel plans, I thought this might be informative. The prospect of dealing with screening and scanners at the airport is never fun, I know! I remember traveling home to the US from Belgrade, Serbia following my metoidioplasty - despite the pain and discomfort, the most stressful thing was worrying about the TSA bothering me about bandages, etc.
In any case, the link above states their policy. It isn’t great, but at least it exists. Chances are you’ll go through the process and nobody will know, but even if they do, you are not the first transgender person they will encounter. Just be informed about your rights, and remember that being polite can save you a great deal of grief.
Does anybody have any travel tips they’d like to share?